Do you have a Scarcity Mindset (about sports)?

Do you have a Scarcity Mindset? Do you believe there is only a limited amount of success available in the world and/or do you begrudge others who are more successful than you or who are successful on a regular basis? More specifically, are you rooting against the Patriots (or Eagles) because you "hate" them or begrudge their success?

I was one of those people for a long time. Envious of the success of others. Disliking sports teams or stars because they were so successful so often. I “hated” the Dallas Cowboys, the New York Yankees and the LA Lakers (even when I had season tickets) because I was tired of seeing them win so much. But I’ve changed a lot over the years and come to realize that there is an abundance of success available and that it is healthier (and more fun) to be inspired by and root for success rather than begrudge it. And I have noticed that this creates energy and momentum and causes others to root for your success, and that the opposite (envy/scarcity) drains energy over time.

Last year we were at two Super Bowl parties and I heard multiple people tell me they were rooting against the Patriots because they “hate Tom Brady” or even crazier, they said they “hate Giselle” (who was not even playing in the game, of course).

As I reflected on that throughout the night and the year, I thought it was kind of a sad way to watch a football game (rooting against a team because you “hate” them due to some arbitrary reason you made up in your head) so I have vowed not to do it again.

I don’t watch much NFL (none really) so I don’t care that much who wins tonight, but I will watch some of the game and I will be happy if the Patriots win because I admire the hell out of Tom Brady and Bill Billichick for the dynasty they’ve put together (despite parity and all the odds) and the way they won last year. And if the Eagles overcome the odds and upset the Patriots, that will be cool too. Either way, I’ll be having fun with my family and friends and eating lots of food.

Who or what are you rooting for?

Enjoy the game!

Lifetime 1RM matched on flat bench!

When I was a senior in college, I lifted weights every day with a really strong guy named Evan. I clearly remember the day we both walked into the rec center and hit our best max on the flat bench press. Mine was 255lbs one time (his was much higher). In the 15 years since that day, I’ve lifted weights haphazardly and never really thought I would be as strong as I was at 22. But that mindset changed over the last six months as I got more disciplined and consistent with my lifting and saw my strength increase. I’ve been thinking about this max for the last few weeks and wondering if I could hit it.

Yesterday, I gave it a shot and am really proud to say that I matched that 1RM of 255lbs with no assistance and really not much difficulty. It felt really good.

This is a testament to the idea that age really is just a number and a mindset and that we can continue to exercise, lift and build strength no matter how old we are. And also that you can build strength without being huge. I think when I hit that max at 22, I weigh about 185lbs and looked big. Today I am a lean 175lbs, and yet I keep getting stronger every week.

I’ve been inspired by many friends who continue to lift and work hard every day and post about their successes and failures and I love seeing people work hard to achieve goals. This is just one stop on my journey and I plan to continue to put in the work and hopefully exceed this max and keep getting stronger. Let’s go!

 

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Books I read in 2017 + Reading List for 2018

As mentioned yesterday, I set a goal a year ago to read at least 25 books in 2017 and I beat that goal by finishing 31 books in 2018. I say finishing because I started more but gave up on a few that weren’t doing it for me. I learned a lot from these books and what is really cool is that I have met and gotten to know some of the authors and am proud to call some of them friends, so I am tagging them if we are connected. If you have questions about any of these books or you have read them as well, let me know. I’ll put a couple notes/recommendations at the bottom. OK, here is the list (mostly in the order in which I read them):

Books in progress:

  • Vision to Reality by Honoree Corder
  • The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone
  • The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday (great daily reader)
  • The Count of Monte Cristo (classic novel - 3rd time reading) by Alexandre Dumas

I learned a lot from these books (and enjoyed the novels I have read). The books that had the biggest impact on me this year were probably:

  • Freelance to Freedom by Vincent (read twice) - helped me think about what I’m doing with finances and career and truly introduced me to Vincent, who has become a very good friend and mentor/coach of mine
  • Dadly book of Open by Jason - helped me understand the importance and power of authenticity and vulnerability in connecting with my family and others
  • Bigger, Leaner Stronger by Michael Matthews - got me on a more structured lifting/workout schedule and I have made tons of gains since
  • The 10X Rule by Grant Cardone - only halfway through but already changing the way I work

I think in 2018 I will focus a bit more on implementation over reading volume, so perhaps I won’t read 30 books, but there are several on my list that have come highly recommended and that I hope to read this year. There are a lot of books on my reading list and more being added all the time so I will need to be prudent with what I read and how I spend my time.  I was going to share a list but I think I’ll stop here.

What books have you read and what are you reading now or this year?

  • Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss
  • Tribe of Mentors by Tim Ferriss
  • The E-Myth Revisited by Michael Gerber
  • Start with Why by Simon Sineck
  • The Ultimate Sales Machine (2nd time) by Chet Holmes
  • The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
  • Resilence by Eric Greitens
  • Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink
  • Principles by Ray Dalio
  • Mastermind Dinners by Jayson Gaignard
  • Oversubscribed by Daniel Prietstley
  • The Mask of Masculinity by Lewis Howes
  • The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz
  • The Better Brain by Steven Masley

And I’m sure a lot more books will pop up.

Reflecting on 2017 and Goals for 2018

First post of the new year! I've been big on goals lately and over the past week or so, I've been reflecting on my goals for 2017 and setting new goals for 2018.

A year ago, I took a course on goal-setting (Michael Hyatt’s Best Year Ever) and set some ambitious goals for 2017, made them as “SMART” as possible, committed to them and even posted about it (you may recall my post from a year ago about goals). It has now been a year so I wanted to post an update with reflection and new goals for 2018 (warning, long post):

For 2017, I committed to practicing my Miracle Morning and to meditating and exercising every single day. I also committed to reading at least 25 books, a sales target at work and to leading my first mastermind group this year. I set a large financial goal in terms of income and net worth. And finally, on the personal/family front, I committed to more quality time with my wife and kids (at least one date with Cortney each month and one adventure with the kids every weekend).

Now that 2017 is over, I can say that I did not achieve all of my goals, but I'm happy to say I performed well on most of them. Here is the recap:

-I meditated every single day in 2017, save one (currently on a 265-day streak).

-I worked out or did some form of exercise almost every single day (I think I missed 10-15 days out of the year) and am nearly as strong as I was in college

-I read 30 books (will do a separate post on books later) this year and learned (and implemented) a TON of stuff on various topics.

-I led my first paid mastermind group for dads (thanks to Larry Hagner for putting his trust in me) and have another one starting on January 29th.

-Cortney and I worked on improving our relationship and I'm pretty sure we went on at least one date every month except December (whoops).

On my financial goal, I completely missed. I didn’t hit my sales target at work and made a lot less money than I hoped. Our childcare expenses went up and we did not make nearly as much progress financially as I wanted. We did reduce our debt (and pay off our auto loan) and our overall net worth increased (mostly because of the record highs in the stock market) but our personal finances did not improve as well as I hoped they would.

Two surprise accomplishments for the year that I didn’t expect:

1. I started a podcast (The Entrepreneur Hot Seat) on May 1 and have made tons of awesome connections as a result.

2. I said I would somehow quit my job by the end of the year to become a full-time performance coach or entrepreneur and I actually did leave my job on October 1, and it was to join a new business (APG) that wasn’t even on my radar in January. Funny how life works.

I'm proud of what I accomplished in 2017, especially because I believe I did it while still spending a lot of quality time with my kids. I also learned from my failures. And I know we still have a long way to go to achieve our financial goals and a lot of work to do in 2018. I still struggle with finding balance, avoiding distractions, saying no to things, communicating effectively and investing my time in the right places.

My biggest goal and new theme in 2018 is on growing my business, increasing our income, paying off debt and improving our financial situation. I plan to do this by committing big time to my business and limiting distractions (like Facebook, haha), taking risks and trying new things. And I hope to do this without sacrificing my health, fitness or time with family. There are always trade-offs to everything we do and how we spend our time and I know everyone struggles with this balance. I'm on this journey as well.

I'm so grateful to have Cortney Fielding and my kids with me on this journey and also for the support of so many friends (I want to tag them but I am afraid I'll leave some out) and especially Vincent Pugliese and our Freelance to Freedom Mastermind Group.

I still have a lot to learn and things to improve, but with strong support and accountability from these people, I believe that almost anything is possible! Her's to an awesome 2018!

If you have reflections on 2017 and big goals for 2018, I would love to hear about them and know how I can help.

PS: I put together a presentation on goal-setting that I gave last week and have shared with others. If you'd like to see it, let me know.